I finally finished my 4th book, Love By The Book by Melissa Pimentel.
Love By The Book is about Lauren, a 28-year-old American living in London, who is trying to live the “fabulous” single life. Unfortunately, she can’t seem to convince the men she’s seeing that she isn’t interested in anything else other than really good casual sex. Her frustration turns into determination and she comes up with this hilarious idea of turning her love life into what she calls a “science experiment.” Each month she follows a different dating guide and records her research to ultimately, “unlock the mystery of the male mind,” as she puts it in the book.
What makes this book 10x better is that it’s loosely based on the authors life! She turned her love life into an experiment (where she recorded her dates, with her “test subjects,” and experiences in a blog: Love By The Book,) and then afterwards turned that into a book! Read About It Here. Talk about brave, funny, crazy and exciting.
One thing I really got out of this book was appreciation for my love life. I can sit here and write about how badly I’ve tripped, fell, tumbled and possibly even died and came back to life, in my path to love but, instead I’ll say that I’m single and happy. Lauren followed all these rules, for months, where she was told to basically not be herself, and if we all take a moment and think about it, that’s what we tend to do. We always conform to what we think we should be doing to get someone’s attention. We hide or disguise a portion of ourselves because in our minds thats what we should be doing if we ever plan on retaining anyone. However, that shouldn’t be the case. We should be loved for who we are, as cliché as it sounds. There’s someone out there that’s as crazy as you are, it’s all about being patient and living.
Excerpt from Melissa’s blog: “You can call him or not call him, you can sleep with him or not sleep with him, you can be a total bitch or be a 1950s housewife, but at the end of the day, it’s pretty much just comes down to whether or not you dig each other. And no amount of game playing can force that.”
One of my favorite lines from the book is actually, “Fuck this shit: I was going to date myself for awhile.” Sometimes that’s exactly what we all need to do, stop looking for something, that eventually will come, and focus on getting to know yourself. Lauren finds what she is looking for where and when she leasts expects it and Melissa found love the exact same way.
Moral of the story: stop looking, start living and be yourself!