“Don’t be scared to walk alone.” — John Mayer
I have never been one to look into solo trips…honestly, I have never been a fan of activities that I couldn’t share with someone else; I thoroughly avoid them. Therefore, you can imagine my reaction when I had no other choice, but to embark in a solo adventure.
No, no it wasn’t one of dreadfulness or anguish; to my own surprise, I dove into the challenge of self-exploring pretty enthusiastically.
Here’s a little background: For the past few months, I have been trying to open myself up to new experiences, and working on redefining what it means to be alone; changing up my perspective to one of positivity, rather than one filled with negative thoughts. Believe me, not the easiest of tasks for a pessimist. Therefore, when I was faced with a situation, that could have taken a negative turn, I made the decision to make it something worth remembering.
Thus, here’s my story, in hopes that it will inspire my fellow pessimistic solo adventurer haters.
I am in Atlanta, Georgia with no set plan; all of my friends are hard at work (it’s a Monday.) I hate not having a plan, but I try not to focus on that. Instead, I focus on what I immediately want, and of course it’s food. Priorities people! Thanks to technology, I quickly Yelp myself a location, the Louisiana Bistreaux. I walk in, head-up, and ask for my solo table. Funny enough, the hostess seemed somewhat surprised, but quickly hid her reaction and walked me to my high-rise (before complimenting my hair…it was a great curl day!,) by the window (definitely a plus!) My waitress was the bartender, and she was awesome. She suggested that I ordered the Jumbo Grilled Shrimp, which was exactly what I needed in my life. I took my alone time and used it to contact my friends back home, who have already traveled to Atlanta, and asked them for suggestions on where to go. After some serious deliberation, it was decided that the The World of Coca Cola was where I should be heading. Nothing like a great meal before embarking on a new journey.
Lesson learned: Never be afraid to eat alone. Treat yourself to the best dish because you are just that awesome!
I order my Lyft, and I think God was pleased with my self-discovering adventure because he blessed me with the best Lyft driver! My driver took me on a mini tour of Atlanta, which included: A view of some of Atlanta’s oldest streets, The Martin Luther King, Jr. National Historic Site, The Jackson Street Bridge (skyline view please,) The Varsity (should have grabbed a hot dog!,) The Philips Stadium (Go Hawks!,) The CNN Studio, The Centennial Olympian Park, The Civil Rights Museum, and dropped me off right in front of the The World of Coca Cola! Honestly, I couldn’t have been more grateful for his generosity. The man was even nice enough to take pictures of me in front of some of the sites. My day was really looking up!
Lesson learned: Never underestimate what good surprises life might have in store for you… just make sure that you put yourself out there!
The The World of Coca Cola was super cute. I’ll tell you, I almost cried during the introduction video, it was just too adorable. Since I wasn’t in a rush and because I was alone, I took my time strolling around; taking in what the museum had to offer. I realized that being alone gives you the time to read all of the literature around the exhibits. Remember folks, reading is knowledge!
Lesson learned: Museums are probably the best places to indulge in some alone time!
After, I leave the museum my friend is still unavailable, and I ask myself what now? I walked over to Centennial Park and sit on a bench where there is a great view of a ferris wheel. I use this time to just think. I think about how proud I feel for venturing out on my own, and enjoying myself. I think about a few of the things that have held me down the past few months (and even years,) but most importantly, I think about how whatever happens next in my life, I know that I will be okay.
Lesson learned: Don’t let the past hold you down more than it has already done so!
I start walking with that thought on my mind. It’s 30 degrees, or maybe 40, all I know is that I am unbelievably cold and improperly dressed for the weather. I walk until I reach a point where it seems a bit unsafe, and there isn’t much around. I realize that I’m shaking from the cold, and figured that it was the right time to head back to the hotel.
Despite not being the type of day I expected, I have to admit that ultimately, I gained way more than I intended to do so. I allowed myself to be open to being with someone that truly makes me nervous…myself, and I am starting to see that it just may not be the worst thing in the world.
Lesson learned: Take some time to get to know yourself!